Wednesday, March 6, 2013

7 Rules of Life

I'm feeling a bit insightful today. This is a forward that my Dad-in-Law sent. I don't know who came up with these rules but are quite deep and might work for some people.

1. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the future.

- That is so true. But sometimes, even making peace with the past can't help your future. Make sure that what you're doing right now isn't something you will regret in the future. You may not regret it right now, but might later. Being careful will only do you good.

But of course if you're already regretting it, then repent. What you did is between you and the Almighty. I believe in God. You may not. But if you are repenting then you must be a good soul. I believe that despite everything, people are still good at heart. They sometimes forget to let that good come into being. What happens with you in life will only make you stronger and wiser.

2. What others think of you is none of your business.

- Follow this rule and you'll be happy. There are all sorts of people in this world. They are entitled to think and believe anything they like. Their thinking will not affect your life, it will only make you paranoid and miserable. Do you really want to let people who don't mean anything to you affect your life that way?

The only people you should care about are the ones that genuinely care about you. Not those who will only talk behind your back and then forget you. They are not the ones who will come to you in the times of need so why bother about what they think of you? Makes sense?

3. Time heals almost everything, give it time.

- Believe it or not, but it's true. It may feel like the pain never goes away, but have faith. One day, you'll forget there ever was any pain. With time, wounds heal. I'm not saying the scars will disappear, but they will begin to fade. That's the beauty of time, it never stops for anyone and changes all the time. What you have right now doesn't have to remain. It holds true for things, friends, family, pain and even yourself. One day, you won't remain either. So don't worry :) and be happy!

4. Don't compare your life to others and don't judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

- This rule is a secret to finding peace. One can never have enough. It's just human nature to want more. But you have a choice. You can either be happy and content with what you have today or you can look at people around you and compare your life. Doing that will only make you want more and there is no end to "more".

Look around you, everyone is pretending. Pretending to be happy, pretending to be satisfied, pretending to be successful. No one wants the other to know the kind of challenges they are facing in the journey of finding "more." Just because someone looks perfect doesn't mean they are. Every one has problems. Problems can be big or small or important or insignificant. That's the hard fact of life. Every single person in this world has problems of their own. Don't judge a book by it's cover. What looks perfect may be imperfect, what looks peaceful may be distraught.

As humans we are only attracted to the beautiful, the positive, and the successful. We don't ever know what negatives or evil they are facing in their journey of life. What we need to do is focus on ourselves, not others. No one is perfect, no one can be. Perfection is unattainable. Sorry, but it just is.

5. Stop thinking too much. It's alright not to know the answers.

- Seriously. Give your mind (and heart, in many cases) a break. We are always looking for answers. There are always so many unanswered questions that drive us crazy all the time and we let it! Sometimes we can't even figure out how to stop wondering. The "what ifs" and "buts" just never stop. Sometimes it's just so frustrating. Stop thinking already! You'll only make yourself crazy. In our quest to find answers, we forget to live. Everyone wants to live forever and never die. Well, sorry. You can't control that. One day you will and the day might come sooner than you expected it. That day you'll regret you wasted time looking for answers when you could've enjoyed every minute of your time, done something fun, given someone joy and love. Don't push yourself to a point where in the end you have nothing left but regret. Sing, dance, visit a new place, make new friends, eat something nice, love someone, look beautiful, be happy, live life!

Stop thinking too much. It's not going to help you or anyone else. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is God's gift, that's why it's called the 'present' (I know it doesn't rhyme). Treat your present with respect and cherish it.

6. No one is in charge of your happiness, except you.

- This quote puts a lot of us in denial. Most of us put our happiness in charge of other people (could be our kids, our spouse, parents, friends, pets, etc.). That's not it. You are responsible for your own happiness, sadness, anger or whatever. Don't expect to be upset and have someone else make you feel better. Only you can allow someone to make you feel good or bad. If you stop allowing people to make you feel bad, you'll always be happy. Control your emotions and your mind. All humans have the capability of doing it. You just need to toughen up and make it happen. I never said it was going to be easy, but it'll be worth it :) Meditation can help.

7. Smile. You don't own all the problems in the world.

- The best tip anyone can give you. Smile. It's okay to have problems, it's okay to be unhappy sometimes, it's okay to be in pain. But don't stop smiling. A smile can change the world. Smile at strangers. Smile at your loved ones. Smile at yourself. Smile even when it hurts. When you look into the mirror, smile and be grateful for this life. It could've been worse, right? There's always a chance for it to be worse than you already think it is. If you start counting the number of problems in the world, the list is endless. But at least you know that they are not all yours :) Yet another thing to be grateful for. Never stop smiling.

These are the 7 rules of life. And I think everyone should live by it. The world would be a lot happier and peaceful. I don't know why I went on about it today but writing it all out has helped me and reassured me that life is beautiful no matter all the problems. So don't forget to live it. It won't last forever.

I hope this post helped you the way I hoped it will.

"Dance like no one is watching,
Love like you have never been hurt,
Sing like there's nobody listening and
Live like there's heaven on earth."

:) On this note, I'll end today's post.

Loads of love

Joy of This

1 comment:

  1. If you havent already heard "I hope you dance" from Lee Ann Womack .. here it is